The Art of War · Part 3, Leading people · Idea 10 of 12

Kind, Not Soft

Sun Tzu on caring for your people without spoiling them. From The Art of War by Sun Tzu, about the 5th century BC.

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Chapter 10 of The Art of War, credited to Sun Tzu, lists six ways an army falls apart. None, it insists, is bad luck. Each is the general’s fault.

Two are mirror images. When the soldiers are strong and their officers weak, the ranks stop obeying. When officers are strong and soldiers weak, the army caves in.

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The idea in short

The Art of War says to treat your soldiers like your own children, and they will follow you into the deepest valleys. But a leader who is indulgent and cannot enforce orders raises spoiled children, useless when it counts. Around 400 BC, the general Wu Qi shared every hardship with his men, and they would die for him.

Care for your people like family, and still hold the line. Practical advice: pick one standard you have let slide, and restate it kindly and clearly.

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Make it yours.

Make it your step

Pick one standard you have let slide, and restate it kindly and clearly.

Ask your council

“My team likes me, but deadlines keep slipping. How do I hold the line without turning cold?”

Sources.

  1. The Art of War, translated by Lionel Giles, Attributed to Sun Tzu (Project Gutenberg), 1910The text
  2. Records of the Grand Historian (Shiji), chapter 65: Sun Zi and Wu Qi, Chinese text, Sima Qian (Wikisource)The text
  3. Wu Qi, Wikipedia, 2026

The Art of War, in 12 ideas.

  1. 1
    Count Before You CommitSun Tzu on weighing both sides before a fight
  2. 2
    Know Them, Know YourselfSun Tzu on knowing your rival and yourself
  3. 3
    First, Don’t LoseSun Tzu on making yourself hard to beat before you try to win
  4. 4
    Win Without the FightSun Tzu on why the best victory needs no battle
  5. 5
    Long Fights Cost EveryoneSun Tzu on why no one wins a drawn-out war
  6. 6
    Leave Them a Way OutSun Tzu on why a cornered rival fights hardest
  7. 7
    Push Where It GivesSun Tzu on putting your effort where resistance is weakest
  8. 8
    Quiet, Then QuickSun Tzu on patience first and speed when the moment comes
  9. 9
    Never Move in AngerSun Tzu on why anger is a bad reason to act
  10. 10
    Kind, Not SoftSun Tzu on caring for your people without spoiling them
  11. 11
    The Five Ways Leaders FallSun Tzu on the five faults that ruin a leader
  12. 12
    Ask the People Who KnowSun Tzu on getting the truth from people, not guesses
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