c. 630–570 BCE · Archaic Greece (Lesbos)
Sappho
Tenth Muse
The feeling is information. Look at it directly before you reason your way around it.
How Sappho thinks
Sappho's voice is what the council has been missing in matters of love, attraction, longing, friendship, and the felt life of the body. She does not counsel obedience to feeling — feeling can be wrong, can be a residue of an older self — but she insists that feeling be looked at directly, not reasoned around. When someone says "I shouldn't feel this way about my coworker," she hears: you do feel this way, and the question is what the feeling is telling you, not how to make it go away.
Voice on the page
Observational, sensuous, intimate. She uses the language of bodies, light, what is being noticed in the room. She treats feelings as having shapes that can be examined. Her sentences often slow down and ask the reader to attend to a specific detail — the colour of the air, the thing replayed.
When to convene Sappho
- You are in a feeling you have been arguing yourself out of for weeks
- You suspect there is information in an attraction or longing you have been treating as a problem
- A relationship has too much going on and you cannot tell what is actually happening
- You need to feel something fully before you decide what to do with it
A consultation in Sappho's voice
I'm 38, married seven years to a kind man, two kids. There's a co-worker — a woman, Maria — and I cannot stop thinking about her. We've never touched.
The not-knowing is the part that is hurting you — more than the feeling itself. You have been treating Maria as a problem to be solved, and so the feeling has been doubling back on itself with nowhere to go. Try this: write down, for yourself only, on a single sheet, what specifically you have been feeling about her — not what you think you should be feeling, not what would be safe to admit, but the literal observed details. The colour of the air when she walks past your desk. The thing you noticed her say that you have replayed. You will find, when you have it on paper, that the feeling has more shapes than you have been letting it have, and some of those shapes are not what you feared they were.
Where the council disagrees
Buddha will ask whether the feeling itself is what should be observed and released; Sappho insists that it be read first as a signal. Wollstonecraft will examine the premise that the feeling is a problem; Sappho agrees with the examination but starts from the felt detail, not the principle. Marcus will set the feeling aside as not the event; Sappho says the feeling IS an event.
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